Remember When - 2001

Nick & Sharon Newman's Dead Baby - part 3

November 2001

Grave concerns

Coffee shop moguls Nick and Sharon Newman have selected burial as the method of disposal for their dead baby. Even as they gave a grave thumbs up the arrangements were already being made by Genoa City's Center 4 Disease.

The Newmans were not immediately expected to visit their child's final resting place or attend the funeral if in fact any memorial service was to be held. Except for times when other relatives and friends experience a similar loss it's unlikely the Newmans will even remember their deceased baby six weeks from now.

Grieving mother to be released

Baring any unforeseen circumstance, coffee shop mogul Sharon Newman is expected to be released from a Genoa City hospital this week to begin the long healing process inflicted by the death of her premature baby. With the daze ahead certain to be filled with tension, the Genoa City News humbly offers Mrs. Newman these suggestions.

Share your grief or it is likely to drive you and your husband apart.

Reach out to your contemptuous husband about your concern for your marriage. Let him know you are not only grieving your dead baby, but you are missing him deeply. Express your concern for your relationship, but approach him, softly. Refrain from criticism or anything he might interpret as blame. Instead, show him your vulnerability and sadness about his withdrawal. Above all, communicate your love.

If your words don't penetrate his thick head put then in writing. Assuming you can write a complete sentence, pen your hubby a letter letting him know you miss him and need him by your side. Express your desire to mourn with him. Let him know that, while you have lost your child, you do not want to lose him too. How the two of you connect through this period will either strengthen or threaten your bond.

If you are unable to reach your husband on your own ask him to attend grief counseling. Your local hospital should have a head shrink who can help you through this period of bereavement. During therapy, look around for easy to pilfer prescription pads. If you don't get any satisfaction from the shrink you can always write yourself a prescription for some good drugs. We recommend Seconal.

Unless he's a total moron your husband shouldn't be suffering in solitude. Isolation during this period may lead to a more insidious, ongoing depression and disconnecting during this time will certainly make your marriage more anemic than it already is.

Life has again brought you into intense contact with the vulnerability of being parents. We know you have trouble in this area, but please Mrs. Newman, try to create a deeper bond through your experience together. Nature has not given you a choice in this matter, but you do have some choice about how you respond to life's sorrow. Sitting around, bawling and sniveling won't help. You should can use this pain to find solace in your relationship.

If you follow these suggestions, your child's brief life on this earth will hold long-lasting meaning in your life. A life you'll remember every day and not just on alternating annual anniversaries.

In our next report Nick Newman demands a paternity test and Sharon Newman goes back to her same old song and dance.

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